You're not wrong – we're just different. The Enneagram as a bridge in being a couple.

What if, in your relationship, you no longer truly see each other? If conflict, withdrawal, or misunderstandings shape the day-to-day – and both of you are quietly suffering?

The Enneagram is more than just a model to me. It has changed my life.

For a long time – often unconsciously – I tried to find safety in the other person.

That made relationships exhausting for both sides. Only through the Enneagram did I begin to understand why I act the way I do – and what my true path for growth is. Today, I stand in my relationship with much more clarity and trust – not only in the other, but above all in myself.

In couple coaching, I use the Enneagram as a map. It reveals how differently we’re wired – and why those differences can actually become our greatest resource.

When two people stop seeing each other as opponents and start seeing each other as allies, space opens up for real connection.

Here’s a testimonial from a couple I had the privilege to accompany:

“In our daily life, we had lost the sense of togetherness in our marriage […] Caro helped us become aware of this dynamic and find ways to rediscover our curiosity for one another […] We’re deeply grateful she helped us reconnect with the love and warmth we share.”

(J. & E.)

The Enneagram doesn’t work on the surface – it goes deep. It opens a path to seeing ourselves and each other with fresh eyes – and to opening the heart again.

The next step isn’t to change the other person – but to become curious. What might happen if you saw each other anew? ❤️

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With warmth

Caroline Tanja Banz